Is it really a compliment when someone tells you that you haven't changed since (insert date here)? Do they mean looks, attitude, that you haven't aged....WHAT?
I make it a point to say something like, "You look as good as you did back in school.", or "You haven't aged a day since (whenever)." Always phrase it so they
KNOW you are complimenting them....unless you aren't! ;)
Being a FaceBook addict, I've hooked up with lots of long-lost buds from my youth. Most of them do LOOK the same for the most part; now, have they "changed" since school? OF COURSE...they have families, careers, worries, MORE responsibilities, possibly gray hair.
I hope I haven't made the mistake of merely saying, "You haven't changed.", without being more specific!
We've all changed in our own way. Hopefully, for the best, some for the worse. Growing up and growing old affects each of us differently.
Now, I'll share how I've changed with you:
I have more wrinkles-tanning beds and sun worship are E V I L (but VERY popular when I was growing up).
Gray hair-Thank goodness for colorist (Thanks Chandy)!!! My hair color changes with my mood (I'm a chameleon). I still have my wild curls though, and I wear them proudly!!!
I used to weigh a whopping 98 pounds! Still 5'10", when I'm not wearing heels! I finally hit puberty, around the age of 30, and got some curves. Yes, I used to be a human 2x4! :)
Lastly, I have gained several tattoos, and lost a few piercings.
My mental and emotional changes are a little harder for me to point out. I am always so critical (but aren't we all), so I only see flaws. I can say that I have become more comfortable with who I am, as I've aged. I used to question my actions, and always doubted myself when others would question me.
As I've matured, I've learned to be more positive. Giving back to the community has become a big part of my life! I've found an appreciation for both that I don't think would have been as rewarding at the tender age of 20.
Wisdom: While I can't say I've gained much, wisdom has come to me with life experience....and don't believe anyone who says otherwise! If you haven't truly lived your life, you cannot play this card! You probably don't even OWN the card! ;) Wisdom comes with experience, and experience comes from living-it's that simple!
So there you have my breakdown....people change, but how much have YOU truly changed?